March If You Want To. Wear What You Like.


C’mon, people. Haven’t we had enough division already? So please, if you’re concerned about Trump and his attitudes toward women and women’s rights, stop saying divisive, disparaging things about the Women’s March on Washington.

I understand that the March got off to a bumpy start, but the intent was always good, and isn’t that the most important thing? As a writer and lover of words, I realize that names are important. I also know that the issue of race in America is a complicated one, and we’ve got a long way to go. But the organizers of this March have continually emphasized that all are welcome to participate, and I think all interested people should be encouraged to do so. The organizers have also just released a terrific, four-page document outlining the inclusive, intersectional goals and principles of the March.

Anyone who has the will and ability to show up on the National Mall on January 21st (or at one of the Sister Marches in another city) has a reason. That reason may be broad and altruistic, or it may be extremely personal. But it’s a valid reason. One of our most cherished American freedoms is the right to organize and demonstrate, regardless of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or anything else. So please don’t make people feel uncomfortable about exercising their rights.

cat_hatIt’s also an American right to dress as we choose. So if you think a pink “pussyhat” will make a statement to the incoming administration, then wear one. If you don’t like the hats or consider them too “cute,” then don’t. Because let’s face it: if you’re not a fan of Donald Trump, chances are you think American women need more—not fewer—choices. So why attempt to influence anyone’s choice of headwear?

I’d also like to note that the Pussyhat Project has provided many people unable to attend the events a wonderful way to get actively involved. Supporters have been knitting, crocheting, and sewing the hats for weeks because they want to be represented at the marches. Let’s allow that to happen, then, and let’s applaud their amazing handiwork. Not to mention that since it’s January, warm hats will be appreciated by most participants. Women supporting women: who can argue with that?

See you at the March?


About Mary Rowen

My three published novels, LEAVING THE BEACH (a 2016 IPPY Award winner), LIVING BY EAR, and IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE THAT WAY focus on women figuring out who they are and what they want from life. Music and musicians have a way of finding their way into the stories. I live in the Boston area with my family and pets.
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9 Responses to March If You Want To. Wear What You Like.

  1. jan says:

    I hope the sun shines down on you ladies! I’m planning on marching in Oakland.

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  2. That’s a valid point- knitting has given a trove of woman who cannot march the ability to participate.

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  3. heatherjacksonwrites says:

    Yes! I’ll be at a sister march in Toronto, Canada.

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  5. booktoss says:

    No. The intent is not the most important thing. And the disparaging remarks, as you call them, are needed. White women in America have a history ignoring, pushing aside or rolling over Women of color, lesbian, queer, and trans women, and Native/First Nations women. The history of White feminism is clear – we (marginalized, non-white women) should contribute our work, receive no recognition, and then shut up when we are shut out.
    I am done with intent … I require action. I will be marking, but I am also watching. I am watching for true intersectional action.


    • Mary Rowen says:

      I’m with you there. Certainly history shows a bleak record for while feminism. But I don’t feel as though this march was ever meant to exclude anyone. Oh the contrary, it was born out of frustration because a man who actively disparaged immigrants, LGBT people, the handicapped and almost everyone else who isn’t a white man was elected. I also hope real action comes out of this. If I didn’t think that was possible I wouldn’t be marching. Here’s hoping tomorrow will be the start of something great. Thanks so much for commenting and adding to the conversation.

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