Rock On, Women!!

vivsSometimes things happen that throw us off course in life. If you’ve read my blog, you may know about my struggle with bulimia and how that illness kept me in sort of a professional limbo for a number of years. Other times, though, we choose our detours. And in the case of American women, the most common detour off the career highway is taking a break to raise kids. (Some men take that route too, of course, but less frequently.) There are hundreds—maybe thousands—of articles written about the challenges women face after being out of the workforce for a while.

But when we think about the workforce, we tend to think of people who spend at least some time in office buildings; people who are paid a salary or hourly wage; people who seek out promotions, bonuses, maybe stock options. We don’t often think of women attempting to re-enter the art, literary, or music worlds after a hiatus, although their challenges can be just as great, if not greater.

My novel, Living by Ear—which is being re-launched on September 16th by Seattle publisher Booktrope—is about a Boston musician named Christine Daley who takes a sixteen-year career break to marry and raise kids, only to discover that getting back on the music scene as a forty-six-year-old is much more difficult than she’d anticipated. (Chris is also in the process of divorcing her husband and starting to date again, so she’s dealing with other issues as well.)

Therefore, when I went out this past Friday night to see the Boston band The Vivs, I was almost overcome with emotion, partially because I realized how much my character, Chris Daley, could learn from them. The Vivs, you see, have a few things in common with Chris. But while Chris struggles and flounders, The Vivs don’t seem to be doing very much of that at all.

This is probably a good time to take a tiny step back into Boston music history. Because if you lived in Boston during the late 80s/early 90s and paid even the slightest bit of attention to the local music scene, you remember Tribe. Tribe was a powerhouse alternative rock band with a huge following and a major label record deal. Known for their dark sound, haunting vocals, and hooky songs, Tribe got tons of radio play and were darlings on the local club scene. And central to Tribe’s success was uber talented and all-around beautiful woman, Terri (Barous) Brosius, who played keyboards, sang backup vocals, and wrote and co-wrote many of the band’s best songs.

Similarly, if you followed indie music in Boston during the early 2000s, you were probably a fan of the band Edith, which was often dubbed “the best undiscovered act in town.” Led by the stunningly gifted Karen Harris—who’s a rock star in every aspect of her life—Edith packed nightclubs largely because of Karen’s distinctive low voice, literary songwriting skills, and magnetic stage presence.

So when the universe did its thing and brought Terri and Karen together as friends, the two women often discussed writing songs and performing together. But by that time, both were also thinking about starting families, and, in fact, both gave birth to daughters in 2001. Two years later, Karen had a son as well. And, like all parents, their lives were complicated. After all, they were busy with husbands, homes, jobs (Karen is a high school teacher, while Terri runs an independent music school), laundry, parents of their own, medical issues, pets, school, playdates, and dinner. Music got back-burnered for a while.

But for Karen and Terri, back-burnered didn’t mean forgotten, and in 2009, they decided to form a band. And not a “mommy band” either, but a real band, with other serious musicians and original songs. A band that would play out in clubs frequented by Boston’s rabid music fans—young and old—and make albums at top-notch recording studios. In other words, they were jumping back in, all the way.

And I’m ecstatic to say that they’ve done just that, on their own terms. Their lives are extremely busy and family always comes first for them, but The Vivs have written a plethora of new songs, keep up a moderate playing schedule, and pack the room every time they play. They sound a little like Patti Smith, a little like Throwing Muses, a little like the Kinks, but they’ve got their own distinct sound as well. And they’ve recorded several albums produced by Dave Minehan (The Neighborhoods, The Replacements) and Eric Brosius (Tribe, Eddie Japan, etc.)

Therefore, as I watched The Vivs rock the house at Store 54 the other night—one of Boston’s newest and funkiest music venues—I couldn’t help feeling hope for all women attempting to reclaim their creativity. Terri and Karen, you’re an inspiration to us all.

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Announcing: Arleen Williams’ Blog Tour

Arleen WilliamsThis week and next–from September 8 till Biking uphillSeptember 16th–my friend and fellow author at Booktrope, Arleen Williams, will be on a blog tour. In other words, her novel, BIKING UPHILL (which is the second in The Alki Trilogy) is on a virtual road trip! I’ve recently started BIKING UPHILL and am really enjoying it. Here’s a brief synopsis of the story:

Biking home from the Los Arboles Sunday Market, a sunflower yellow teapot snug in her backpack, lonely college student Carolyn Bauer sees a young teenager huddling under a eucalyptus tree. Carolyn shares her food and water with Antonia as they struggle to communicate in a mix of languages. Realizing Antonia lives on the streets, Carolyn invites her home. They share a summer of friendship until the day the yellow teapot shatters and Antonia mysteriously disappears. Fifteen years later, only Antonia recognizes her old friend when she and Carolyn meet again in an ESL classroom, but she conceals her secret. Carolyn arranges a class project for Antonia—to job-shadow her friend and housemate, Gemi Kemmal. Gemi learns Antonia’s dangerous circumstances when Antonia arrives for work with bruises barely concealed by thick makeup and offers her sanctuary just as Carolyn had years earlier. Together the three women confront Antonia’s abuser and build a family of enduring friendship. Biking Uphill, the second book in the Alki Trilogy, invites the reader into a world of undocumented immigration, where parents are deported, and a young girl is abandoned to face life on her own.

On the blog tour, you’ll be able to catch reviews, excerpts and guest posts at a variety of sites. Arleen will also be posting the guest posts on her own blog at www.arleenwilliams.com.

Here’s hoping you like what you see enough to beg, borrow or steal a copy of BIKING UPHILL (or just ask for it at your public library). You can also purchase it here. Then, if you really want to make Arleen’s day, you’ll write a review on Amazon!

Here’s the tour schedule:

Monday, September 8            Reecapieces and Chick Lit Club Connect

Tuesday, September 9                        Book Reviews and More by Dee

Wednesday, September 10     Doorflower

Thursday, September 11        Ski-Wee’s Book Corner and Reading in Black and White

Friday, September 12             The Bookworm and Book Referees

Monday, September 15          Jersey Girl Book Reviews

Have fun on tour, Arleen! I look forward to hearing about your adventures!

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Can Creative Parents Have IT ALL Too?

mike_lbeThis is a slightly revised version of my very first blog post. Back in January of 2013, I was ramping up to self publish a novel called Living by Ear, and knew I should start a blog. But what would I write about? People advised me to consider the themes in the book and blog about how they applied to my life.

Now, Living by Ear has lots of themes, including music, divorce, alcoholism, parenting, and infidelity. But when I really thought about it, the theme that resonated most heavily with me was that of balancing parenthood with creativity. The main character in Living by Ear is a soon-to-be-single mom attempting to re-establish her music career while also trying to be a good parent to her two teenage children. Which wasn’t all that different from what I was doing. Thankfully, I’m happily married, but as the mother of two teenagers myself, I was publishing my first written work since college and learning firsthand about all the changes in the literary world.

So now that Living by Ear is being republished by Booktrope—complete with a new cover and a bit of an edit—it seems appropriate to take another look at that blog post. I’ve made some updates, but it’s essentially the same.

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As I prepared to graduate from college in 1986, I discovered that I didn’t share the same goals as most of my friends. It was quite a shock. For four years, we’d been hanging out in dorms, partying, traveling around Europe, and finding various other ways to have fun. (Oh, and managing to slip in some studying too.) But as graduation approached, everything was changing so fast. Suddenly, my friends were talking about having it all. Fast-track careers, business suits, money, and family.

I couldn’t relate. These bums, these partiers, these people I’d seen drink beer out of funnels were accepting positions at banks and big corporations. They were gushing about the wonderful benefits offered by their new jobs: health insurance, vacation time, maternity leave. Some were actually investigating childcare options near their offices. And although I knew that was normal stuff for women in their twenties to think about, I was filled with terror and self-doubt.

Because it all sounded so foreign to me. Sure, I wanted a family—at some point—and I wanted to be a writer too. But the pursuit of wealth and power? No. When I thought about the future, I imagined myself typing novels—on a typewriter, of course, as personal computers hadn’t been invented—with a couple of happy, artistic kids running around.

I should also mention that I was dealing with a serious eating disorder back in those days, and wasn’t healthy enough to focus clearly on long-term goals. Still, I did my best to find ways to support myself and work at jobs I found fulfilling: I canvassed for MassPIRG, taught middle-school English, and worked as a writer at a local software company. And then, when I was in my late twenties, I got really lucky and met a wonderful man. We fell in love, he helped me with my health issues, we got married. And when I became pregnant with our second child, he encouraged me to quit work, stay home with the kids, and pursue my writing dreams.

That was thirteen years ago, and I don’t regret that decision at all. Thankfully, our kids are healthy, smart, and generally happy. The writing’s been coming along well too, and I’m really proud of what I’ve been able to accomplish.

So what’s the problem? Well, there are a few. First, there’s the financial aspect. For all the years I’ve been writing, our family has been surviving on my husband’s income, but with college not that far in our kids’ future, it’s a little scary. If you’ve heard it said that nobody working in the arts is doing it to get rich, well, that’s almost a hundred percent accurate. Not that writers can’t make money, but most of us don’t make a lot.

Which leads to the next question: should I get a job-job? I haven’t worked outside the house in a while, and with both kids now full-blown teenagers, I feel like it’s very important to be available in the afternoons when they get home from school. I mean, if Anne-Marie Slaughter can quit her job in the Obama State Department to be closer to her teenage sons (for more on this, check out the 2012 cover story in Atlantic magazine titled “Why Women Still Can’t Have it All”), then surely there are valid reasons for me wanting to be there for my kids too. Right? Then again, I could get a part-time job, work mornings, and take a break from writing for a few years.

My final two major concerns are related to the way my kids view my work. I’ll write more extensively about this in future posts, but here it is in a nutshell: on one hand, my kids aren’t particularly comfortable with the knowledge that I write about sex and other adult topics. On the other hand, my daughter would like to read my writing, and I’m not particularly comfortable with that either.

Anyway, all of this has made one thing imminently clear to me: I do want it all, but in an artistic way. I want a fulfilling, creative career, but I also want to be able to afford college. I want to write the material I’m inspired to write, but don’t want to embarrass or horrify my kids. And although I’ve never forbidden them from reading anything before, I haven’t allowed them to read my books.

I’d love to hear how other artistic parents of older kids deal with these issues. How do you make ends meet? And how do you and your children deal with the adult themes in your work?

Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments; I can use all the help I can get!

 

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Author C.D. Taylor’s Blog Tour Stops HERE Today!!

CDAuthorPicToday, I’m excited to host a stop on author C.D. Taylor’s OSCblog tour. C.D. is a fellow Booktrope author, and her book, an erotic romance called Our Second Chance, is a tale of forgiveness, redemption, and love. It demonstrates how the power of healing can strengthen the bond between family, friends, and lovers. Here’s a little synopsis:

Emily Mills lives a life of opulence and luxury in Los Angeles but can’t shake the feeling that there is something more out there for her. It isn’t the picture perfect life her social circles expect and she knows something is missing. Unwilling to let happiness be a distant wish, she boards a plane to chase her dreams of becoming a lawyer in New York City. It doesn’t take long for her past to reappear with her former best friend from college, Jake Bradford. Knowing the feelings she’s held for Jake all these years, she still tries to convince herself that she isn’t worthy of any sort of love from him. Conceding to a fraction of her desire, Emily strikes a deal with Jake to become steamy friends with benefits. Soon her passionate bond with him turns out to be way more intense than she expects and she finds herself wishing her emotional scars didn’t rear their ugly head and destroy everything she’s worked for.

Can Emily forgive herself and those who have hurt her in the past to become the person she knows she can be? Or will the roadblocks in front of her cause her to make the decision to run like she’s been doing most of her life? Book 1 of this thrilling new 3-book series will leave you panting for more and cheering for second chances.

Would you like to win a copy? All you need to do is leave a comment below. Everyone who comments today, September 6, 2014, will have their name put in a hat and I’ll draw a lucky winner tomorrow morning. (That’s because I’m on the East Coast, and might go to bed before you West Coasters have had a chance to comment.)

If you don’t win, you can purchase Our Second Chance online at Amazon or Barnes and Noble.com

Finally, if you’d also like a chance to win an entire Our Second Chance swag basket, checkout this Rafflecopter giveaway!!

Best of luck to everyone!!

Here’s a little info about C.D. Taylor, as well as some ways to find her on social media: 

C.D. Taylor began writing as an item to check off her bucket list. She resides in the southernmost part of Illinois, right on the mighty Mississippi river. She enjoys the quiet country life with her husband, son and the many farm animals that make up the rest of the family. C.D. decided that farm life was just a little too mundane, so she started writing erotica to spice things up, so far so good. C.D. entered cosmetology school right out of High School and practiced the art of hair styling for 12 years. When she isn’t writing, she can usually be found sitting around a table making people laugh. She has always wanted to be a standup comic. She loves pulling practical jokes, dresses up in a costume every Halloween and believes that dancing is the key to a happy life (even if you aren’t a good dancer). She believes that life shouldn’t be taken too seriously, we will never get out alive anyway. More than anything, C.D. is a kid at heart, she doesn’t believe in bedtimes, eating everything on her plate, or having ice cream only for dessert. Her favorite quote is by Dr. Seuss…”Why fit in, when you were born to stand out.”

Author links:

https://twitter.com/CDTaylor_Author

http://authorcdtaylor.com/

https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/4908299.C_D_Taylor

 

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Cover Reveal! A Beautiful Facelift for Living by Ear!

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Today, I’m finally able to reveal the new cover for Living by Ear, designed by the brilliant Greg Simanson.

The entire book has gotten a facelift–including a bit of an edit–from my wonderful publisher, Booktrope. Thank you a million times to all members of the amazing creative team who worked so hard to make this happen.

Living by Ear will be officially relaunched on Tuesday, September 16th. Here’s a the blurb from the back cover:

What happens when the world you love doesn’t press pause when you do? Singer-songwriter Christine Daley hit the streets of Boston and became a minor celebrity—with a local radio hit—in the 90s, but a “short” career break to marry and have kids changed everything. Now, sixteen years later, she’s a frustrated suburban housewife, struggling to find her place in life.

After filing for divorce, she learns that her attempts to reestablish her own rhythms—both in music and in love—are more complicated than she’d anticipated. Her two teenagers are desperate for their mom, and her soon-to-be-ex-husband is throwing every obstacle he can in her way. Adding to the stress is the progress in technology, which has not only changed the music industry, but also the dating world. Is there room in the mix for Chris?

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A Decent Woman: Interview with Author Eleanor Parker Sapia

EllieToday, it’s very exciting to have Eleanor Parkia Sapia as a guest to interview. This is becoming my favorite part of blogging. It’s so much fun getting to know other authors.

MR: Eleanor! It’s lovely of you to drop by!

EPS: Hi Mary! Thanks so much for the opportunity to interview with you! I am honored and grateful to be featured on your super blog!

MR: Well I’m happy to have you here. I’ve been looking A Decent woman BOOK COVER!forward to reading your book, A Decent Woman, for months now, and am so glad it’ll finally be available soon. How about we jump right into some questions, as I’m sure readers are anxious to learn more about you. When did you start writing or know you wanted to write more than just letters and grocery lists?

EPS: I am a list maker from way back. I will admit to adding items previously accomplished to a list, just so I can cross them off! Must be a Virgo thing J.

At age forty, during a difficult time in my life, I began writing poetry. Every poem I wrote was therapeutic in that I was able to sort stuff out, and hide behind symbolism without actually spelling out what was happening to me. Shortly after, I began keeping a journal; three pages written long-hand, thanks to Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way. I still write something every day to keep the writing juices flowing. Through this daily exercise and discipline, I discovered a way to put words to my deepest feelings, thoughts, and emotions. You can’t lie to yourself when you journal; it’s all there in the rawest form. I am never without my journal; some entries are short stories and travel stories, complete with photographs of my many travels.

In 2006, I wrote a long tribute honoring my 90-year old Puerto Rican grandmother. Several family members and my ex-husband told me I had a novel to write. That was the impetus for my novel, A Decent Woman, and I’ve never looked back.

MR: That’s very impressive. I’ve tried keeping journals over the years, but they always tend to get put aside for long periods of time. I wish I had your discipline. So what sort of thing do you most enjoy writing? (novels, short stories, poetry?)

EPS: I enjoy writing short stories, poetry, and blog posts about the writing life. I am passionate about writing novels, specifically historic novels, set in exotic locales with Spanish-speaking characters who experience mystical, spiritual, and ultimately, life-changing awakenings…or not.

MR: So I’m guessing things like that don’t happen in your life every day. Therefore, where do you get your ideas?

EPS: I get my ideas from listening well, people watching, day dreaming, being present, reading, and traveling.

MR: And when you sit down to write, are you a plotter or a pantser?

EPS: I wrote my debut novel, A Decent Woman, in six months with a brief outline; nothing extensive. Just recently, my new editor, Ally Bishop, encouraged me to outline my novel which helped tremendously with the plot and timeline. I now see great benefits in plotting, but my pantser side reappeared with my second novel, Finding Gracia. What seems to resonate with me is writing the first draft, and then focusing on plot, story arc, and momentum in the second draft which I write shortly afterward. I must have the initial freedom to write without worrying about rules of grammar, etc. My friends will tell you this is how I live my life, as well. I’m 57 years old, and most rules are becoming suggestions the older I get!

MR: That totally makes sense. So many writers are held back by that internal editor who tells them, “You can’t say that!” I agree that writers need the freedom to write whatever we want in our first draft. So can you tell us a bit about A Decent Woman?

EPS: Here’s the brief synopsis:

At the turn of the century, male-dominated Puerto Rico was a chaotic, uncertain, and hard place for a woman to survive; especially one with a secretive past, which if discovered, threatens her future. With twenty years of slavery behind her, Afro-Cuban Ana Belén is a midwife who reverently fuses Catholicism with her vivid ancestral Yoruba traditions. Ana forms an unlikely friendship with a young Puerto Rican socialite that sustains them through years of parallel tragedies, and the betrayals of men who want to rule them.

Spell-binding and insightful, A Decent Woman is a story of fate, choices, sacrifice and love. The combustive backdrop of 1900 Puerto Rico after the United States invasion of the island offers a provocative look into the complex lives of women of that era.

MR: Well I can’t wait to read it. So, A Decent Woman is being published by Booktrope. Have you ever self published or worked with other publishers?

EPS: After two years of querying agents, and a few false starts with two great agents, I set my sights on small publishers. I queried a dozen publishers and a friend mentioned her publisher, Booktrope. I sent Booktrope my manuscript and at the same time, I created a self-publishing account with Amazon as a Plan B. For some reason, I couldn’t click the button to download my manuscript. Something told me to wait, and a month later, I received a letter of acceptance from Booktrope on February 14, 2014. I am fortunate and blessed to be part of the fantastic Booktrope family, and am honored and grateful they believed in me and my story.

MR: What an amazing Valentine’s Day gift! Aside from writing, what other things do you enjoy doing?

EPS: Spending time with my adult children and family is what I enjoy most in the world. I’m happiest when they are around me, especially now that my sons live in Europe, and my daughter lives two hours away in the Washington, DC area. I’m fortunate and blessed my kids still like spending time with me, so our time together is precious. I love doing anything that involves being outside in nature, and as an island baby born in Puerto Rico, I must live on the coast or near a large body of water; living land-locked drives me bonkers. Hiking, gardening, painting, reading, and black & white photography are other activities I very much enjoy.

MR: I understand that need to live near water, Eleanor. I don’t think I could stand to live more than an hour–or maybe two–from an ocean for long. So what’s next on your writing agenda?

EPS: I’m in the final edit stage of my debut novel, A Decent Woman. We are looking at a book launch in late October 2014. The book marketing, to include social media, has already begun, and we’ll be in full swing before and after the launch. I’m excited to see my book in print, and more excited to share it with the world. I’m looking at the sequel to A Decent Woman, Mistress of Coffee, coming out in 2016.

I am currently writing my second historical novel, Finding Gracia, set in Spain, on the medieval pilgrimage route of El Camino de Santiago, also known as The Way of St. James. I walked El Camino with my children in 2005 right about my marital separation. This novel is dear to my heart, and tough to write.

MR: Yes, I can only imagine. Anything else you’d like to share?

EPS: Just recently I was asked if like my protagonist, Ana Belén, I practice the Yoruba traditions also known as Santería. The answer is no, but it’s a more complicated question than I initially thought. I was born in Puerto Rico to a Catholic family, and although my Puerto Rican grandmother wasn’t a Yoruba initiate or follower, she believed in spirits, communicating with the dead, and she knew a lot about healing with herbs and flowers. I listened with fascination to my grandmother’s incredible stories of attending séances when she was young, about the world of spiritism and spirits, good and evil. I went to my first psychic at age 15. The description in A Decent Woman of the psychic’s reading room is from my first visit, which I’ve never forgotten. As an impressionable young girl, the experience scared me

Even today, spiritism and Santería are common practices in Puerto Rico, and many Caribbean islands, to include the United States. Many Puerto Ricans fuse their Catholicism with the vivid, ancestral traditions of the Yoruba faith. I’ve been known to light candles, put pennies in a bowl of water in honor of Santa Clara, as well as reciting St. Michael’s prayer, all done for personal protection.

MR: That’s really interesting. The older I get, the more I think there’s no one path to spirituality and health, and that everyone needs to find their own way of making sense of this world. Thank you for sharing so much with us today, Eleanor. Best of luck with your final edits, and I’ll make sure to let my blog readers know when A Decent Woman is released.

EPS: Thanks for a fun interview, Mary! You asked great questions!

 

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I Saw a Woman Eating in the Woods…the Secret Lives of Bulimics

girl in woodsThe other day, while walking my dog on a wooded trail, I noticed a young woman sitting on a rock, half hidden by trees, eating with a plastic fork. She didn’t look up as I passed; in fact, she turned her head away. Next to her was a backpack, which was clearly not empty.

I didn’t recognize the woman, despite the fact that I walk in that area quite frequently. She was attractive and dressed in casual, fashionable clothing. Most people, seeing her, would probably assume she was a student or office worker, just trying to find a little peace in this crazy, busy world.

And perhaps that was the case. But as I continued on my walk, my mind was flooded with memories of times when I ate like that–privately, carrying food to secret places–so no one would know I was binging on stuff I’d later purge. I recalled the many times I told friends at work that I had errands to do on my lunch break, when my only real errand involved going to the grocery store. Then I’d take the junk food I’d bought to a quiet place where I’d eat it, and hurry back to the office so I could vomit as inconspicuously as possible in the bathroom.

Even now–even after bulimia has been in my past for almost twenty years and I’ve written a novel, called Leaving the Beach, about a bulimic woman–I find it embarrassing to talk about that stuff. I wish so badly that none of it were true, and that I’d been a normal eater all my life. But seeing that woman in the woods reminded me of how sneaky and secretive bulimics are about their disease. And how skilled most of them are at hiding it, even from their closest friends and family members.

I know this because I kept my bulimia a secret for fifteen years. During that time, I had wonderful parents, caring siblings, great friends, and various boyfriends. But none of them knew I was bulimic until I told someone–my future husband–and got help.

Why? Well, that’s the point of this post. Because secrecy is an integral part of bulimia, just as itchy red welts are an integral part of measles. Therefore, if someone close to you is suffering from bulimia, there’s little chance they’ll tell you about it unless they’re so sick that they don’t know what else to do. But if you know what you’re looking for, you may be able to detect some warning signs and get them help before things get out of hand and/or the person does serious harm to their body. So here are some of those warning signs, courtesy of NEDA’s website. NEDA (National Eating Disorders Association) is an amazing, non-profit organization.

Warning Signs of Bulimia Nervosa

  • Evidence of binge eating, including disappearance of large amounts of food in short periods of time or finding wrappers and containers indicating the consumption of large amounts of food.
  • Evidence of purging behaviors, including frequent trips to the bathroom after meals, signs and/or smells of vomiting, presence of wrappers or packages of laxatives or diuretics.
  • Excessive, rigid exercise regimen–despite weather, fatigue, illness, or injury, the compulsive need to “burn off” calories taken in.
  • Unusual swelling of the cheeks or jaw area.
  • Calluses on the back of the hands and knuckles from self-induced vomiting.
  • Discoloration or staining of the teeth.
  • Creation of lifestyle schedules or rituals to make time for binge-and-purge sessions.
  • Withdrawal from usual friends and activities.
  • In general, behaviors and attitudes indicating that weight loss, dieting, and control of food are becoming primary concerns.
  • Continued exercise despite injury; overuse injuries.

But I’ll leave you on a good note, because I’m hoping all the recent talk in the media about EDs is making a difference. The other day, someone directed me to this article in Glamour in which Zosia Mamet, of the HBO program GIRLS, came out and admitted that she’s currently dealing with an eating disorder. And while my heart goes out to her, I’m also blown away by her courage to talk about her illness while she’s still in recovery.

I hope Ms. Mamet will continue to get better, and also hope her bravery will inspire other people to talk to people they trust about their eating disorders. Because help is out there. It’s readily available and there are numerous ways to get it, even if you don’t think you can afford it. NEDA can help with that, and a lot of other things too. Communication is the key. Let’s really get eating disorders out of the woods and into the open.

 

 

 

 

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